Admit it, sometimes you can’t help it.

You start comparing yourself.

You notice someone who looks happy and well adjusted smiling at everyone and realize that the small annoyances that would send you over the edge, barely puts a wrinkle in their joyful glow.

What is their secret?

Did they start out with an unending flow of joy juice rushing through their veins? They are human and are faced with the same defeat, disappointment and the occasional bout of sadness you encounter. 

Everyone has moments when they don’t receive the outcome they were expecting. When their hopes are dashed by someone with power over their life or they lose something they adore like a job, relationship or personal belongings.

Those are the moments when you are most likely to fall deeply into a pattern of negativity. When you mire in grief and are unable to see clearly the choices that are available. 

It is those moments that negativity can take root and you lose hope of ever having a joyful moment. Instead, you worry about what else will come between you and that perfectly tended feeling of joy.

Based on the circumstances, you forget that you can just choose joy.  As someone who may be new to the spiritual path It is in your powerful hands to learn something new. Here are some of the secrets to choosing joy over negativity.

1. Be Vigilant About your Thoughts.

Thoughts pour through your mind quickly sometimes, especially if you are new to the spiritual path, slow your thoughts down. Become aware when your thoughts are an endless stream of your to-do list peppered with rants of negativity. 

Create an awareness of what thoughts are worth keeping. Let go of the ones that are negative to make space for an uplifting thought. Also pay attention to the tone and language of your inner voice.

2. There is No Time Like Now

When you stay in the moment and intentionally think about how things are in the present, you will usually find that things are O.K. The removal of thoughts of the past or constantly focusing on the future is where negativity plays dirty and sucks all the fun out of life.

Recognize the great benefit of just enjoying the moment and the joy to be found in the present moment. Hang onto the the simple feeling of just being. 

3. Reframe for A Reality You Love

We always have a choice and can choose to focus on the reality we want, it only takes reframing what is available to us. I know that sounds a little weird and new age, but bare with me. 

When you notice a negative thought ask yourself what the direct opposite would be. You do not need to imagine how that reality will happen, only how you would feel if it does come true. It is the feeling that you’re going for.

Do not limit your reality based on your current circumstances . If you are having trouble believing a certain reality is possible for you, look around for success stories. The world is full of inspiring turn arounds!

Use other peoples stories as proof that you can have it too.

4. Learn from Successful People

When you notice someone who is joyful, be willing to be vulnerable with them. 

Ask questions, find out their secrets for joyful living. How do they work out their negativity? 

We all get sucked into negativity, but some people have good strategies to overcome difficult mindsets. Ask them for help, their solutions may work for you. Especially if you are in recovery or a highly sensitive person, it can be difficult to understand a different way of being if you’ve always been living from a place of feeling overwhelmed, lacking  or misunderstood. 

5. Be Honest with Yourself

When you are honest with yourself about your situation you are able to develop acceptance. Acceptance of how things are in the present moment and then acceptance that you have the ability to change.

For example if you are deeply in debt but living beyond your means, you are going to have a difficult time feeling joyful when you spend money.

There will be an internal disconnect in your subconscious that tells you you can’t afford what you are buying. That silent thought will undermine any feeling of happiness and fulfillment for the things you buy. Leaving you feeling empty inside. 

When you are honest about your finances and rein your spending habits to be more in alignment with what you can afford, you will feel an internal freedom to enjoy what you purchase. 

6. Forgive  Everyone

When you hang onto grievances it is like a memory eraser. You will only remember your negative experiences with the people who hurt you.

You do not have to make nice with them in person, hug or kiss and be friends or family again. However, you do have to forgive them in your heart. Remember the blessing of the lesson they taught you and how it highlights your desire for people to treat you differently.

If forgiveness is something you struggle with join me for the Moon Manifesting Mastery group we practice forgiveness at our full moon rituals, the link is below.

7. Share your Gifts

When you offer you’re gifts to the world you will feel a deep sense of joy. Gain knowledge of your strengths and offer them every chance you get. Volunteer to help a friend or family member with something they are struggling with or find a volunteer position that uses your strengths and passions.

The act of giving yourself freely without any expectation of return will give you a great sense of fulfillment.Choosing joy over negativity is available as an option in every situation you encounter.You were born to create the life you desire. You have the ability to create from your heart the experiences that will give you the most joy.

Love & Blessings,

Charlene